Een hart, de wilgen en de Wet

In mijn bibliotheek bewaar ik een aantal boeken, die ik af en toe herlees. Omdat het boek anders klinkt, telkens als ik het lees. Zo ook de Alchemist, van Paulo Coelho. Een absolute aanrader, ook bij de tiende lektuur. Een van de gedachten in het boek trekt telkens weer mijn aandacht: Als je iets wil,... Continue Reading →

Loslaten, hoe doe je dat?

Misschien heb jij het ook al gehoord, misschien kreeg jij ook al dat Gouden Advies: "Je moet het gewoon loslaten..." Helemaal waar, natuurlijk, maar loslaten: hoe doe je dat? Al ben je nog zo overtuigd dat het de juiste weg is, toch is er nog altijd iets in jou dat zich vastklampt. Aan een vriendschap,... Continue Reading →

The Encounter

At the end of August I granted myself a short retreat by the seaside, a five day stay away from everything and everyone, just Me-Time. I had been looking forward to it, as I usually deeply benefit from Me-Time. And I had a surprisingly hard time to get to the point where I could enjoy it.... Continue Reading →

Connecting with your BFF

When coaching someone who is amidst of a puzzling situation, not really knowing what to do, I often suggest an approach that can be really clarifying: Imagine what advice your Best Friend would give you... It is kind of a dissociative technique, I admit. Instead of wrestling with all aspects of the situation from within,... Continue Reading →

The Pearl

Yesterday I had a real nice conversation with my brother. He mentioned an interview he was listening to, driving his car back from a walk by the seaside. The interviewee, a local artist, explained how everyone has a Pearl inside, and to discover this Pearl and bring it to the world is the single most... Continue Reading →

Healing the ‘love’ that hurts

Some people have been hurt so deeply That the way they show love is seriously influenced by hurting. They hurt the ones they love. The deeper their love, The deeper the hurt will be. They usually call it fear or self-protection. It is. It is a prison with bars of pain and hurt and a... Continue Reading →

Follow your heart – follow your dreams…

Ain't it a funny side-effect of coaching people, as I often notice: you explain to your client how taking a different perspective might clear out a dense fog, and yet if you're plain honest with yourself, you have been stubbornly holding on to some perspective yourself, getting lost in the fog alltogether. So that's a... Continue Reading →

The HourGlass

Sometimes we find ourselves struggling with something awkward. We may think it is something outside ourselves, and yet when looking consciously, we can always find how we put ourselves through a lot of stress simply by the perspective we take towards what happens in our lives. Nevertheless, we surely are Going Through Hell sometimes. And... Continue Reading →

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